The world’s leading podcast on how attachment shapes the way we live & love.

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Are you ready to move beyond fear and develop the tools to build a healthy, secure relationship?

In On Attachment, join leading relationship coach Stephanie Rigg as she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.

IN CASE WE HAVEN’T MET…

Hi, I’m Steph

I’m a certified relationship coach who specialises in helping people break free of insecurity and anxiety to create safe, loving & connected relationships.

I’m also a very human work-in-progress — and I like to think that’s why my work resonates with so many of you. I always chuckle at the number of people who say “It’s like you’re inside my head!” — because really, I’m just inside my own head and it happens to look remarkably similar to yours! It’s powerful to know we aren’t alone.

My philosophy is that relationships can be incredibly healing, when we are courageous enough to do the messy and ongoing work of tending to them.

It’s not always comfortable, but it’s worth it.

Thanks for being here & for your support of On Attachment. I’m so very proud and humbled by what this community has grown into, and look forward to continuing to support you on your path to wholeness and healthy love.

Catch the latest episodes

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#170: Dating Q&A: Early Dating with Anxious Attachment, Navigating Texting Anxiety, Not Attaching Too Quickly, Prioritising Values Over Chemistry

In this Q&A episode, I’m answering your most common questions about early dating—particularly through the lens of anxious attachment. If dating feels like a minefield of overthinking, anxiety, and emotional highs and lows, this episode is for you.

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#169: Self-Sabotage: Why We Do It & How to Break Free

In today's episode, we’re diving deep into self-sabotage—those frustrating patterns where we seem to work against our own best interests. Whether it’s procrastination, pushing people away, or avoiding opportunities, self-sabotage can feel like an endless cycle. 

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#168: How to Support an Avoidant Partner to Open Up

In this episode of On Attachment, we’re diving into how to support an avoidant partner in opening up emotionally. If you’ve ever felt frustrated by your partner’s emotional distance or found yourself unsure how to help them feel safe in the relationship, this episode is for you.

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#167: How to Balance Compassion for Others with Boundaries for Yourself

In today's episode, we're talking about the delicate balance between compassion for others, and boundaries for ourselves. For those of us who tend towards empathy and curiosity towards others' inner worlds, it's easy to fixate on the "why" behind their behaviours (particularly behaviours we don't like or understand). And while that is an admirable trait, without clear boundaries it can easily veer into self-abandonment. 

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#166: Signs an Avoidant Partner is Deactivating & What to Do About It

In today's episode, we’re diving into what avoidant partner deactivation looks like and how you can respond to this experience in a way that protects your emotional wellbeing and prevents further spiraling and disconnection. 

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  • "Medicine for the soul"

    ★★★★★

    I found this podcast just recently and I am glued to it. She really gets it. I am soaking all of this up like it’s medicine for the soul. At last, so much makes sense. It helps me to explore this anxiously attached side of myself without shame and frustration. It’s so helpful to hear her partner’s perspective as well. Thank you for sharing all this in such a calm and meaningful way.

  • "The best material on attachment I have found"

    ★★★★★

    I am a therapist and in addition I struggle with anxious attachment. I am finding the content of this podcast so helpful; I would say the best material on attachment I have found. There are so many examples shared in the episodes and I say to myself, “Wow, this is me!” I will definitely keep listening [and] sharing with my clients, thank you so much!

  • "The best podcast on attachment"

    ★★★★★

    I have been reading books and listening to other material on attachment theory for a few years now and this is by far the best explanation and advice I’ve found so far. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience with the world! Keep up the good work!

  • "Life-changing"

    ★★★★★

    I’ve been devouring all of the episodes in this show following a string of challenges with personal and professional relationships. Wow. Eye opening! I can’t get enough. Now… if I could only turn back time and deploy the new knowledge I’ve gained from Stephanie! Ah well. Onward. Thanks Stephanie!

  • "The healing you didn’t know you needed"

    ★★★★★

    Finding this podcast was an actual godsend. I have done a lot of therapy over the last several years and a lot of work on myself. Then I found Stephanie and wow… I feel like I have found the last piece to the puzzle. She calmly and lovingly explains the areas of error for people and practical ways to heal. I feel a sense of calmness now in my relationship and when anxiety arises I feel confident on how to address it. She also helps me see the perspective of those around me which has helped me see that many people do love me and care about me, despite my inner fears. I am so grateful to her and this podcast. Please have a listen, it will help you and your relationships immensely!

  • "She's got it"

    ★★★★★

    Stephanie has a certain je ne sais quoi: brilliant and insightful understanding of adult attachment and how attachment styles affect relationships; well-packaged and well-presented knowledge of the topic with a voice that is relaxing and will hold the listener’s attention. She is intelligent and compassionate in her discussion of all attachment styles.